Mixed messages

Aside from discovering that Wisconsin is halfway between SF and Maine (whatever) the crazy man has proceeded in sending additional mixed messages in regards to finances this week. First, there were statements about potential vacations (Camp Mather and Wisconsin) that we can all estimate would cost at least $2k. I then discovered that he had not deposited shared expenses on the 1st, as he's legally obligated to do, asked him when he might be depositing and got no response. Two days later I receive an email that his biggest gallery client is closing their doors resulting in a net salary loss of 34% with pie chart included. This was quickly followed by an email asking if we wanted to sign either child up for a particular day camp (um, with what money?).

Two weeks late, shared expenses showed up along with child support (on time). Included in his email was a statement that we need to discuss the expense of after-school care for Frances next year. The same fabulous program that she loves and has been going to since kindergarten that all her friends attend. You might recall that a month or so ago he suggested pulling her out of this program and putting her into a private school that would cost $15k more per year with no after-school care. I have been rearranging my financial landscape in the event this came up again so that some continuity can be maintained in Frances' life.

It is all quite maddening if I spend too much time thinking about it. Instead, I try to remember to chant the following mantra: 'he is crazy, I am not'!